And I am someone they hate. I'm a bisexual woman who actually dated women and I'm filipino. So bam, two things they not only hate but like to exploit and use.

But I found they often will go along with stuff like this just so they can add fuel to their fire so to speak. They want to have stories where someone tried to explain something to them, or they want to have that argument about how "black men have a violent gene" like they would just enjoy discussing that instead of actually changing their mind. They love to be contrarian about anything.

And of course that's the crowd that overlaps with white supremacy. So it seems like you can through to some of them who probably aren't in that deep but others- you're right, there's too much working against you to fight it. Plus the people you're fighting, are enjoying the fight.

Like how do you get through to someone who gets off on that?

[–] Quexotic@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

Well, I think that with those that are just playing a game trying to see how much they can agitate you, you don't engage in that part. That reminds me of a conversation I had as a 7cups of tea listener before I realized 7cups is kinda evil. They were trying to "shock" me by saying outrageous and disgusting things about incest. They were unable to handle it when I decided to throw radical acceptance at them and was like , "yeah, that must make your life hard. I'm sorry to hear that, do you have a therapist that you can talk to about that.." and so on.

Maybe they were being sincere, maybe, but when I just treated them with kindness, they realized it wasn't fun and they left the conversation. They realized, I think, that they were just being inappropriate.

There is no way to get through to everyone, all you can do is try.