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What is smth toxic in a relationship you should not like but did/do? (lemmy.dbzer0.com)

submitted 1 year ago by SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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We've all faced aome toxic traits in partners in some relationship. They're supposed to be warning signs but its easy to misinterpret them, what’s yours?

Could be anything from possessiveness or jealousy to argumentativeness or bossiness.

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[–] Tamilas@reddthat.com 66 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Part of me enjoyed them making every little decision for me. I think it's why I ended up in that situation in the first place.

I was burnt out and just didn't want to think anymore, they came along and just controlled everything. For a little while it was nice.

But once I started getting better, they didn't want to relinquish control and it was hard to escape.

After 2 years I did escape, but I had to relearn what my likes and dislikes were. They had done such a thorough job of deciding everything I had forgotten even little things e.g. if I liked chinese food, or if that was just their preference.

[–] SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Hope you've rediscovered yourself ❤️. I know faaar too many women in a similar position.

[–] fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com 15 points 1 year ago

And I've known men, too. No indicator for OP, but its easy for anyone to fall into this trap.

[–] keepcarrot@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I feel like I currently would be vulnerable to such a thing

[–] operator@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago

Take care and watch out for yourself:)