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Do you interpret a 👍 as a rude reply? (leminal.space)

submitted 3 days ago by Flamangoman@leminal.space to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Every time somebody sends me a thumb I take it as "whatever you say you fucking dumbass" and it pisses me off.

And ya, I'm aware that that the replies are going to be thumbs, let's see em ya jerks!!!

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[–] Reil@beehaw.org 26 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

Depends on who's saying it and to what, and in what manner (message reaction, its own separate text).

"Hey who wants pizza tonight?" in the group text.

Bunch of👍reactions mixed in with some 🍕 and 🕺

That's normal and people agreeing with you.

"Hey could you pick up some toilet paper on the way home?"

👍 reaction.

That's a neutral kind of acknowledgement.

"Hey man, that was pretty fucked what you said back at the party. I think the others want to talk to you about it."

"👍"

That's rude and dismissive, and not just an acknowledgement text.

[–] Goretantath@lemm.ee 14 points 1 day ago

Aka context matters, like all forms of english communication.

[–] DreasNil@feddit.nu 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

First of all - I’m shocked that anyone would use a thumb up like in your last example. That’s obviously extremely rude and disrespectful.

Second of all - I’m shocked that some people can’t see the difference of the usage of the thumb up and believe that it’s always rude, regardless of context.

[–] Reil@beehaw.org 4 points 1 day ago

It's a little bit of a generational/cultural gap, I think! Like how Ok. and Ok... are fully normal to boomers, but anyone millennial and younger are going to read that as being short, or as an ominous trailing off compared to the neutral, no-caps-no-punctuation kk or ok.

I think children up through the younger end of millennials are just more likely to give neutral-to-lightly-positive acknowledgement in other ways, like 🫡or ✅ or 🥰 or 💯. 👍 is reserved by some for lower enthusiasm or even a restrained, mild annoyance.

[–] Silk@lemm.ee 1 points 1 day ago

That was pretty fucking funny