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I genuinely feel like no matter what I do, psychopaths can always pretty much immediately defect me as the perfect victim.

I think it's partly because I'm ugly, partly because I'm sensitive, and they can just tell I'm a weak person.

It's making my life a living hell, no matter how hard I try I just can't blend it, I can't force myself to act a certain way, it's exhausting to me

Help..

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[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 3 points 3 days ago (4 children)

I really feel for you mate. Vulnerable people get targeted constantly and it's horrible... they can get in a cycle of never being able to not be vulnerable because they never get a chance to fully recover. The funny thing is that vulnerable people see people's true self around them.

The main thing is working on self esteem, having good boundaries comes when people have the self esteem to do them. Have you worked on the causes of your self esteem issues? Counselling can really help

[–] jlyndby@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Idk. Like, interpersonal psychopaths don't scare me as much cause I can always just ghost them for the most part.

My issue is with workplace ones (cause it's hard to find a good job) and also with the ones in my apartment complex. There's no effing way it can be dealt with I'm just screwed.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 1 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Workplace ones are awful, there's loads of research showing bullies often go into management. Best way I've found to manage it is not to tell anyone I work with anything about me so they have nothing to use against me.

Have you got much support in your life? If you're missing a dad's support you can find it at !dadforaminute@lemmy.world it's great and supportive dad posters.

[–] jlyndby@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I tried that but they always find a way to turn everyone against me. They hate my guts

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 3 points 3 days ago

I hear you. Counselling can really help, it helps you take control of your own life and reduce the amount of problems you have.