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Don't give up man_in_space. I had only dated 2 people by 31. I didn't meet my SO until I turned 34.
This may not apply to you, but I was once in a similar situation. One day I finally realized that a relationship shouldn't make me happy, it should make me happier.
I think that was quite a turning point and things got better from there for me. I started focusing on myself and finding things I enjoyed. Dates stopped becoming so daunting and I think people noticed that.
Anyway, good luck!
Resilience is sexy and perseverance is key. Go forth and flirt bro.
"I'm sorry. I am autistic and might've misunderstood your signals. But would you possibly like to go out for a coffee some day?"
Then you've covered your ass. They know you're shit at signals and further know to not speak cryptic to you. They also know that you're interested and have a choice of just saying "No I'm sorry" without being cornered.
Invest in yourself and get your ass online.
There's no excuse being single unless you're putting in absolutely no effort that to make yourself attractive in any way possible for a SO.
You can be fugly and with a personality you will still pull.
You can be Brad Pitt with no personality and you will still pull.
Most importantly, shotgun blast your asking out girls and be used to rejection.