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I'm so tired of the current state of the internet (beehaw.org)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Templa@beehaw.org to c/chat@beehaw.org

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Everywhere you browse, people have such strong opinions about everything and are so toxic or extremely negative. You start playing a game, want to check the forums or something and most of the posts are people being mean to each other. You open social media to keep in touch with people that you'd like to maintain a certain level of contact and there's always some people that are always complaining about every single thing.

I see myself more and more closing myself into a bubble which makes me appreciate Beehaw much more. I know I am guilty of being taken away by the toxicity and sometimes replying things I wouldn't be proud of but since I joined Beehaw I see myself policing myself more and more focused on being better.

Just a quick rant, I currently started playing Baldur's Gate 3 and I am honestly pissed off on the fact people can't give feedback without being rude or "gamers" just shitting on developers because they are stans of another game. I wanted to be active on the forum and comment on bugs and such because I want the game to be better but it is so depressing reading people being awful so often.

Why are we so shitty to each other? I'm so tired.

Edit: Pardon me if I used weird terms or grammar errors, english isn't my first language

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[–] Hirom@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Part of the reason is that people don't know how to provide feedback in a nice way. I'm guilty of that sometimes, when I use software and make a bug report or write feedback, I realize after the fact I sound passive agressive.

It takes conscious effort to provide feedback in a nice way before it becomes a habit. I'm told a compliment sandwich is a good way to provide critical feedback without sounding like an asshole.

[–] DRUMS_@reddthat.com 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Or as that article mentions, it is also known as a Shit Sandwich. Mostly because we don't refer to sandwiches by the bread.