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How do you even deal with this, it's like competing for everything, job, dating basic necessities etc. You slip for a moment and you will be replaced.

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[–] orgrinrt@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago

This seems like an attitude thing to me. I’ve done my share of slipping, and never was I replaced. I don’t feel like I’ve had to compete for things in a way special to just men, just the normal inevitabilities of scarcity that concern all genders, beyond the binary and within it.

But then again I have the privilege of living in a social democracy with a social safety net with guaranteed minimum income for everyone despite their situations. I also have the privilege of being male, which makes most everything just easier by default. On top of that, I am a white male in a majority white country, with ordinary name and all.

So maybe I would benefit from checking my privilege here. It’s likely not an attitude thing. It’s likely an inequality thing, as long as you are not yourself part of the privileged majority.

Now I feel a little bit ashamed and awkward, this really isn’t something worth posting, but then I feel like acknowledging my many privileges might maybe make someone reading this think about theirs, and perhaps we can, little by little, make the world a little more equal and balanced place.