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The question is rather "how many people have a metro station within walking/biking distance" and "how many long-haul trips do you need to make".

Over here we don't set aside half a day (or more) to to drive to walmart to buy groceries for a fortnight, we pick stuff up as we need it when we're out, anyway. Dropping into the supermarket to grab some things is like a five minute detour if you know what you need and where it is. You can spend the metro ride thinking about what to cook, buy what you need, then get going.

According to statistics commute times in Europe are actually slightly longer than in the US, but that doesn't take into account that combining trips is much easier over here and that riding public transport gives you time to, whatnot, knit, biking or walking counts as exercise, while driving a car counts as, at best, nothing, at worst, the road rage will ruin your day.

I'm not saying that you, personally, can flip a switch and make it work for you, on the contrary: The reason that you're not doing it organically is because the infrastructure where you live is right-out designed to not make it work for you. What I suggest is that instead of saying stuff like "It cannot be the case that Europeans are living better lives, they must be imagining things" you say, to your compatriots, "How are those bloody europoors better at this we are supposed to be the best let's figure out how to beat them". Or at least that's how I imagine motivating Americans looks like.