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[serious] What survival reflexes of your own experience are hard for you to get rid of? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 13 hours ago by Merlu@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Either from abusive parents, toxic relationships, short or long term bullying or any other kind of traumatic past that gave you some survival reflexes that are not longer relevant but are hard for you to get rid of.

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[–] jupyter_rain@discuss.tchncs.de 16 points 12 hours ago

I keep back any feelings in arguments, most interactions and also intense situations. Makes me loose a lot of arguments because I almost freeze and I appear as a person which distances from others. On the other hand I am able to keep calm in a lot of professional situations and act deescalating.