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Do any of you feel like your definition of success has quietly changed in your 30s? (lemmy.world)

submitted 4 weeks ago by mudbug@lemmy.world to c/AskMenOver30@lemmy.world

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When I was younger, I thought “making it” meant money, hustle, status. Now I just want stability, a calm mind, and maybe a good dinner. No shade to ambition, but these days, peace of mind feels like the bigger flex. Curious if other guys have had this quiet shift too, or if I just got tired.

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[–] Wxfisch@lemmy.world 1 points 4 weeks ago

100% this. I've also generally found that a company that treats me well, where I enjoy the work (as much as anyone can enjoy work), with coworkers I respect and get along with will usually provide just fine. I work harder and do better because I want to, not because I feel I need to, and that's rewarded with raises and promotions all on its own. I don't really worry much about trying to make more because I don't have to. I have a good house with a wonderful wife. We have all the things we need to be comfortable plus a few luxuries here and there. We go on vacations and trips sometimes, but it's not like we are wealthy and I am a-okay with that. I stop working at 5 almost every day and my management encourages it, but I also want to accomplish things at work, which makes each day more than bearable even if they aren't all great.