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What brutal advice should all younger generations know? (lemmy.world)

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sometimes, the most valuable lessons are the harshest ones. What’s a piece of brutal, no BS advice you think every younger generation needs to hear? It could be from your own experience, something you learned the hard way, or just a tough truth no one talks about enough. Let’s hear the cold, honest reality.

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[–] Nouvellalia@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If you are very lucky you will see many people you love very much, die. If you're not lucky, you will die first. It will usually be a surprise. Tomorrow is never guaranteed.

Say "I love you" often, express your gratitude often, be in the moment often, with anyone you care about, and with yourself.

[–] mudbug@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Amen. Your answer is one of the few that is actually brutal advice that everyone should be given.

Something I've wanted to know, but have been too afraid to ask older friends, is does it get easier? Especially as the number of people dying keeps increasing and happening more and more frequently.

[–] QuoVadisHomines@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Im 50 and no it does not. Losing my mom’s 68 year old BFF in December hurt just as much as my grandmother dying 37 years ago.

[–] Bubbaonthebeach@lemmy.ca 2 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

To add: knowing in advance that a death is imminent vs a sudden death is not easier. If you can, add people to your life. Loneliness makes loss even worse.

[–] QuoVadisHomines@sh.itjust.works 1 points 12 hours ago

I think that depends on the death. My other grandmother who died a decade or so had significant dementia and hadn't recognized me in two years despite weekly visits. By the time she died I had already mourned her loss.