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What is everyone's opinion on how ADHD affects people's desire to have kids? (lemmy.dbzer0.com)

submitted 4 days ago by ScoffingLizard@lemmy.dbzer0.com to c/adhd@lemmy.dbzer0.com

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When I was a kid, I was punished excessively. My diagnosis occurred when I was 25. In the 1980s, I got paddled every day at school and was punished constantly. It made me feel rejected, leading to rejection sensitivity dysphoria. By the time I was 9, I decided life was not worth living and have not changed my mind at 45 years old. I would never have a child to suffer the way I did. I still feel like nobody wants me around. My mental health issues have severely impacted my quality of life. I'm just now figuring out that this might be why I have never felt my clock tick, or thought for even a second of my life that I wanted kids.

Has this happened to anyone else? I wonder how many in this forum might have decided against parenthood due to ADHD effects without realizing it.

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[–] Phen@lemmy.eco.br 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I think it can go either way. This sort of thinking is based a lot more on your life experience than your genetics.

[–] ScoffingLizard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 4 minutes ago

I think I have terrible depression and that it is genetic. It could be based on that. This is a good exercise to do because all this feedback is telling me that my lack of desire to have kids could be related to the ADHD, but that ADHD usually does not dissuade folks from parenting much of the time, so therefore something else is likely a larger factor in my attitude about motherhood.