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- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
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- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
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- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
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- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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Not OP but I went through this in 2017
The good: staff was overall very helpful, seeing my friends was great
The bad: explaining to the chaplain every time he came in that I don't necessarily care for religion (at least not xtianity)
my hospital is very pushy with the chaplain, but there was a way for me to kinda opt out by disallowing the staff from putting my surgery info on a whiteboard where the chaplain goes to find patients to prey on. This also meant my spouse wouldn't get updates from that same board, but we agreed it was worth it to avoid the chaplain, lol
sorry you had to deal with that, I think there is a lot of transphobia still and it's weird to me that chaplains are pushed so hard with gender-affirming surgeries π¬
It's weird that chaplains are pushed so hard, period. This has been driving me nuts in clinicals - they'll just drop into a patient's room completely unsolicited and start asking religious shit. Like... dude, did that patient request a chaplain? No? Then get the fuck out! I can see the value in having a chaplain available to patients who want one, but until that request is made, stay in your damn office!
I actually opted out so the chaplain couldn't find me and somehow they still ended up dropping by during my recovery. Luckily this chaplain was pretty chill, it could have been a lot worse - but it was still a stressful event for me and against my explicit wishes and choices.
I wonder - what do you think the purpose of a chaplain is - all of this has made me think more about chaplains and their role. I tend to be cynical and think the worst, that being that chaplains are basically there to try to convert people when they are vulnerable (after a surgery can be a traumatic time, and a significant number of religious conversions occur after a trauma). There is also the opportunity to convert before death, so that might be playing a role too. But I need to actually read up on the history and context, maybe my cynicism is misplaced here.