Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
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- Bigotry of any kind will not be tolerated.
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This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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Huh. We'll ask during intake, but haven't offered our own. Do you think that's a good practice overall, or making it weird? You and a couple other posters have mentioned -and I agree- that trans patients are first and foremost patients who should be able to expect the same care as anyone else, to include not getting special treatment since that can be awkward for the recipient. I have noticed a couple nurses seem like they're walking on eggshells - like they'll get WAY apologetic if they fuck up a pronoun. It's awkward just to see from the sidelines, lol.
Some surgeons are like that. Reeeaaaaally smart in their area of expertise; but dumb as rocks the second they set foot outside of that bubble, to include basic social skills. Med school really needs a course or two on "how to not be an asshole!" ...often the side you see as the patient is the 'nice' side, too - once you go under, they crank the asshole up to 11 to the staff in the room.
But... we tolerate it. They're good at providing healthcare, and if that wasn't keeping them occupied, they'd probably be serial killers or some shit.
Hope your recovery is going well! Unsolicited advice: you're only about 30% as good as you feel after surgery. It's the drugs. When you start feeling good enough to return to your normal daily routine, NO YOU DON'T! Sit down, be lazy, and chill for a couple more days. And follow your post-op instructions to the T - the groin is a high infection rate area, so don't cut any corners with whatever they told you to do for cleaning, dressing changes, etc.
Also, congrats!