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My friend who I post about, the problem is that she wants to be this great person who everyone worships and wants to be a symbol of the world and her country, etc. She always talks about it and when I tell her that I'm a normal person who's never achieved that either, she goes on about how her friends are all famous and she's not and how she wants to be worshipped but doesn't think she can achieve it and doesn't do anything to achieve it.

She constantly wants reassurance that she'll be worshipped by everyone and very beautiful.

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[–] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 24 points 1 day ago (7 children)

Should probably get some therapy for narcissistic personality disorder. There's likely nothing you can say to help

[–] AuroraGlamour@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (6 children)

Should I cut her off? It's all she talks about and if I tell her it's unrealistic, she'll call me abusive. She'll hate herself even more if I cut her off even though I kind of want to.

[–] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 11 points 1 day ago (4 children)

I would've said try and ignore it at first, but now that you've said she's straight up insulting you for not playing into her delusions, yes, it would probably be good for you to cut her off, for your own sake. How she deals with that is her problem, you're not obligated to cut your nose off to make someone else look better.

[–] AuroraGlamour@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Thanks so much, she doesn't insult me but she has said "others are so abusive for not saying I'll be loved by the world"

[–] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You just said she calls you abusive for not feeding into her ego. That IS insulting you. And if she's doing this to others too, I would get far away and not look back

[–] AuroraGlamour@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Thank you so much. I'm ignoring her now

[–] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 day ago

I'm glad you were strong enough to do that, I know that can be hard :) Hopefully she'll get some help and y'all can be friends again, but don't get roped back into it until she stops treating like you an accesory and starts treating you like a friend.

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