I feel you. Maybe I'm too biased because, without doxing myself, I live in a pretty radical area where that can and does happen. Not enough, but it's happening more often. But again, huge structural barriers and heavy repression by the state is a large reason why it doesn't happen more. It's not that people don't care. People are pissed but they're also terrified and have too much to lose. Job, families, healthcare, etc. In ATL people are being charged with 35 years in prison for simply handing out flyers. We can't ignore just how much coercion there is from multiple angles keeping the people immobile.

Not only that, but the generation that has been the dominant foece in politics for over half a century is literally in their hospice years. The current younger generations are the most explicitly anticapitalist generations in our history. There's tons of learning to do, but it's gonna take a little time to overcome the decades of McCarthyism.

If it helps, I have had the same conversation in my head and have also heavily considered my exit plan. Anything can happen, but it will eventually be clear whether the left has any hope of challenging the resurfaced wave of white nationalism within US politics.