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If someone's pronouns are any/all, what should I use or how should I determine how to refer to you and what pronouns to use? (monyet.cc)

submitted 1 year ago by DragonWasabi@monyet.cc to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I want to be respectful but if they say they don't care what pronouns I use for them, that feels like it puts the decision on me to choose what to call them and I guess I would probably default to "they" because choosing a gender for them feels weird... am I wrong?

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[–] Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 21 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I'm probably the least qualified person to comment on this, but I would probably just default to their name.

That's Bob's coffee

Those are Sarah's keys.

Less chance of fucking it up, IMO

[–] Catsrules@lemmy.ml 15 points 1 year ago (2 children)

What do the people who are bad with names do?

[–] Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 26 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Audibly shit their pants, obviously

[–] federalreverse@feddit.de 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I am reminded of this somehow.

[–] DarkenLM@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

What in the name of fuck did I just watch lol

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[–] metaStatic@kbin.social 0 points 1 year ago

Get my name wrong all the fucking time. "oh I bet you get that a lot"

Jesus fuck I wish people would just misgender me so I could get righteously indigent instead of constantly correcting people with a smile.