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Screenshot of a Tumblr post by nongunktional:
when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue
to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence
I don't know who gave you that idea, but it's incorrect
That would be my husband’s friend from college who despite getting lots of interest on dating apps; wants nothing to do with any of the women interested in him.
And I quote:
Too fat
Too old
Too skinny
Too young
Butter face
She has a PHD
She has kids
Etc etc
I understand this perspective only if someone wants to remain childfree; it's impossible to compromise on having kids or not, you either do or you don't
If it's just because he only wants his own biological kids, I'm less sympathetic
Depends on the specific circumstances, but i feel like it can be just as much of an issue, if you want children and don't even care if they are biologically related to you.
Depending on how much the other parent of ones stepchildren is involved in their lives and their age, taking on a parenting role might not be wanted or even allowed. So you might have children living in your house, but won't ever have a complete parental relationship with them. You will always have that additional relationship that needs to be build around, whether that be vacations or where you live.
That's fair - I suppose there is more complexity & nuance for those situations than I initially thought about