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What are the bad patterns of Reddit to never repeat on Lemmy? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 year ago by sociablefish@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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A few examples include s*x questions on askreddit, "this" comments, nolife powermods, jokes being more frequent than actual answers

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[–] CeruleanRuin@lemmy.one 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

If that's an issue that actually affects you often enough to complain about it, maybe, uh, maybe you should, idunno, search your soul or something.

You know what they say about someone who is always complaining that every room smells like dog shit when he walks into it.

[–] SpaceToast@mander.xyz 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I never said people called me racist. I was a Reddit lurker. But you see it all over the place and unfortunately here too.

Such a sad way to live, constantly filled with anger and hatred.

[–] CeruleanRuin@lemmy.one 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Don't be so quick to dismiss people's anger. It comes from a place of their own truth. They probably have a good reason for it. Acknowledge the truth first and then address the complaint.

[–] SpaceToast@mander.xyz 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I’ll give you that, but it unfortunately leads to a lot of prejudice and antisocial behavior.

My comment is a perfect example. All I said was that people shouldn’t call others facist/racist, and that was all it took for everyone to assume that I am.

[–] CeruleanRuin@lemmy.one 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'll grant that it is often used as a thought-terminating cliché, and we should all be judicious it its use. But sometimes you just call something what it is.

[–] SpaceToast@mander.xyz 2 points 1 year ago

And 90% of the time it is exactly that.