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[–] LinkOpensChest_wav@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 11 months ago (6 children)

No sense arguing with tankies. Every take I've seen from hexbear itt is absolute brainrot, and I can't wait until we can block entire instances.

Signed, A gay, married anarchist

[–] tocopherol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 29 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I'm a queer anarchist and I've posted plenty on hexbear, is it possible you only notice the takes that cause you the most instinctive reaction? There is a more diverse array of views there than people on other instances realize I think. And I've seen more constructive discussion there than most places on the internet, including lemmy.world and other instances.

[–] LinkOpensChest_wav@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

That's great, although I'm not sure how well someone who fundamentally opposes statehood can find much meaningful discourse there.

Look below, and you'll see tankies accusing me of transphobia and all manner of evil simply because I choose to be married, even though I by no means exclude or invalidate anyone else's relationship.

It fucking sucks when people can defend a state for excluding gay people (or any people) from rights that others enjoy. It's in itself LGBTphobic. Not me -- them

[–] tocopherol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 17 points 11 months ago (1 children)

The only 'tankies accusing' anything I saw in the convo were people mentioning that "marriage is a patriarchal institution", which I don't see how that is calling you a transphobe even if you disagree. Someone did mention trans people don't care about marriage because they are being murdered, maybe that is what you are referring to, it really didn't come off to me like anyone was calling you a transphobe but maybe I'm wrong. I didn't see anyone say that you couldn't be married, or that people can't enjoy having a marriage, to me that is separate from critique of marriage as a patriarchal institution. But yeah, I don't know why anyone would defend a state for anything. That's part of why I do feel the need to engage with more 'state-friendly' socialists, to figure out what about it seems necessary to them, or if there is some greater flaw with my anti-state belief.

[–] LinkOpensChest_wav@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 11 months ago (3 children)

That's a pretty generous interpretation of someone accusing me of being a typical gay person "pulling up the ladder." In fact, your just straight up being dishonest here.

I think you need to examine your personal motives for associating with people who defend authoritarian genocidal regimes. Maybe you're privileged enough not to care, but I give a fuck about people. Goodbye

[–] CatoPosting@hexbear.net 18 points 11 months ago

authoritarian genocidal regimes

Like the United States?

[–] brain_in_a_box@hexbear.net 17 points 11 months ago

authoritarian regimes

As opposed to those non-authoritarian regimes that you, as a self proclaimed anarchist, definitely believe in.

[–] autismdragon@hexbear.net 16 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Damn you got really mad at someone for saying that they are interested in why pro-state socialists feel that way and want to learn. Why does someone wanting to learn make you so angry? Maybe because you're closed minded and refuse to listen and learn in the slightest?

Someone with as much obvious privilege as you, who wields it in conversations freely, calling others priviledged for the mere act of engaging with people who think differently than them is quiet rich.

ETA: I think you need to maybe think about introspecting instead of lashing out when someone accuses you of being a priviledged white gay westerner "pulling up the ladder". Because that is a quiet common phenomenon (see men like Pete Buttigieg for example). White gays who aren't poor saying "ok, we won marriage equality, dont care about the rest of it" is very frequent and you ARE acting like that in this thread.

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 15 points 11 months ago (2 children)
[–] kristina@hexbear.net 23 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Hexbear has the largest number of trans people than any other instance lmao

Yet another gay trying to split away from the T rather than trying to understand why so many trans people hold views like this

[–] autismdragon@hexbear.net 21 points 11 months ago (2 children)

As an anarchist you should agree with "marriage is a patriarchal institution" since that take was pretty much invented by anarchists.

[–] LinkOpensChest_wav@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] ThereRisesARedStar@hexbear.net 21 points 11 months ago

Breaking news: White gay man doesn't recognize his privilege within the broader queer community, and now the weather

[–] ThereRisesARedStar@hexbear.net 19 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

The critique of marriage as a patriarchal institution was invented by anarchists lmao. I'm just a "tankie" but I'm well read on anarchist lit, why aren't you as an anarchist?

[–] LinkOpensChest_wav@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Because all anarchists famously agree on everything

Fucking galaxy brain

[–] ThereRisesARedStar@hexbear.net 15 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I'm not aware of any queer anarchist critiques that don't acknowledge that marriage, especially as recognized by the state, is a patriarchal institution, they just go on to elaborate how that can be subverted within queer culture. Do you have any links or recommendations for writings that argue that marriage recognized by the state isn't a patriarchal institution at all?

[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 4 points 11 months ago

dw they'll get back to you after they write their own.

it's going to be Harry Potter but Harry is gay, nothing else changes

[–] brain_in_a_box@hexbear.net 16 points 11 months ago (1 children)

"There's no point arguing with you; you'll disagree with me!"

[–] LinkOpensChest_wav@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I don't come here to argue, nor do I come here to convince

Typical tankie seeing everything as a power struggle

[–] ThereRisesARedStar@hexbear.net 17 points 11 months ago (1 children)

tankie seeing everything as a power struggle

Anarchists are also rightfully obsessed with criticizing hierarchy and power what are you talking about? What do you think being an anarchist means?

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 9 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

It means being in a vaush cult apparently

[–] brain_in_a_box@hexbear.net 14 points 11 months ago

One look at your activity here shows that that's a lie.