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Well, thank for this enlightement. Guess if i haven't stumbled on this post, i would never knew from other people's perspective.
Well, I often use this apology : "I'm sorry you fell that way..." to acknowledge that people don't have the same kind of sensibility. Some things hurt me but won't and will never hurt you and vice-versa. And that's normal.
I do it as i think it's the norm while feeling sorry. I don't know how they interact, i mostly copy-pasta while i'm doing my best to repair my mistake and improve things.
So, the sentence wasn't about myself but the inherently human's feeling and interaction.
You can word it like this.
"I hadn't realised that you were hurt/you felt that way. And I am truly sorry"
This both acknowledges that you acknowledge how they feel and also takes responsibility for whatever thing that caused hurt. What you were doing originally puts the blame on them for feeling that way, kinda in a passive aggressive way.
Thank a lot for your help :)