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this post was submitted on 24 Oct 2023
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Simply having impossible, hypocritical standards does not make an incel.
I 100% guarantee if I had those standards I would be labeled an incel. You're just flat wrong.
I'm dating a girl right now, and we talked a bit about ex partners and whatever. At some point ahe said she was dating a guy with a actual micro penis and how he was useless to her. She kinda expected me to laugh there but i just felt bad for the guy. She also told me that she likes about me that i'm really handy, she would never date a guy that works on a computer and couldn't fix (her) stuff. I just said that's a pretty weird thing to say. But when i thought about it later i realised how weird that is. She specifically said that "that kind of man would be useless to her."
Never in my life have i even thought something like: "what does this woman bring to the table? She's cute but she's a bartender. That's not very useful."
The thing that i have learned from online dating the past few years is that women get away with way more than men because they can. This is not some incel manifesto, i don't hate women at all, i always liked hanging out with women more than men, and if i'd get away with the shit they could, i probably would.
While you certainly have a point, I think that approach is one-sided. We, as a society, absolutely have similar expectations of women. It's shallow of her (and a bit odd to hear someone admit to) to be so dismissive of her ex's penis, but we absolutely dismiss the value of women that have small tits or ass, or their lack of willingness to do certain sexual acts. You wouldn't dismiss a cute bartender for being useless, but you would absolutely dismiss a bar-owner (and thus, very useful) for being ugly.