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You had 30-50 matches over eight years? Where do you live, bumblefuck?
Also the apps aren't for conversations. They are for meeting people. If you are trying to have a lengthy conversation on Tinder, you're putting screws in with a hammer.
Nope! Manhattan, the polar opposite of Bumblefuck! The problem there is the sheer amount of people, even average or below average women will get bombarded with 10s or 100s of matches a day and just as many messages, so you just get lost in the crowd if you're not a perfect 10. Also there's a lot of dudes in the city that are just creepy as fuck. I'm obviously not good with women, but these guys make me look like Casanova. Women almost always have their guard up because of that. I just moved to Miami 2 weeks ago and it's a breath of fresh air (both literally and figuratively haha) to have strangers be friendly and want to talk to you.
I was never trying to have in depth conversations with these women, I wanted to jump from the match right to the date. They're the ones that wanted to wait days or weeks until a date happened.
I mean I live in Brooklyn and I get about one date a month. Probably more if I hit the apps every day instead of just tinder. And I'm a pretty average guy with a big deal breaker.
I'd love to see more of what guys who are failing are doing differently than me.
I lived by Park Slope (Windsor Terrace) for a year (moved out of NYC in June) and yeah I got a fair amount of matches, but half of them never turned into actual dates because people were too busy with their lives. I'll admit that I did get more matches when living in Brooklyn than when I lived in Manhattan, but as you're aware, Brooklyn is fucking huge.