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[–] DavidGarcia@feddit.nl 44 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

times I have been successful: 1) wearing trashbag, 2) wearing a nerd costume, 3) wearing the ugliest fit I could find

I think he may be onto something

[–] SinningStromgald@lemmy.world 19 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Just gotta keep it weird but not creepy weird.

[–] cynar@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

For those unsure. Often the difference is the displayed confidence. If you're showing embarrassment or are unsure, it quickly becomes creepy. If you own it with confidence, then it projects "screw the norms, I'm good enough to ignore them", which is attractive to a lot of women.

The confidence doesn't have to be real either. The difference between fake and real is entirely in your own head. No-one can tell, unless you let them.

[–] OneWomanCreamTeam@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Often the difference

That often is an important distinction here. I've definitely had people very confidently creep me the fuck out with their weird bullshit. Honestly sometimes it makes it so much worse.

[–] artaxthehappyhorse@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

or it drifts into arrogance, then you're attracting an entirely different type of person

[–] cynar@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

True, however, while arrogance requires a lot of confidence, confidence doesn't need to be arrogant. The best bet is to laugh at yourself, not put others down. It's far from simple, and you can get it wrong at times, but it's far better than being unconfident in yourself, while doing something weird.

[–] ElBarto@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago

Ahhhh, that's where I went wrong.

[–] stebo02@sopuli.xyz 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I was Shrek for Halloween and suddenly got a lot more attention so maybe I should be Shrek all the time?

[–] RootBeerGuy@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 1 year ago

Thats just common sense, dude.

[–] SquareBear@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago

Girls like a guy with layers.

Once picked a guy up at the bar by drawing him Nigel Thornberry on a napkin. Weird shit starts a conversation at least