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What is the most unhelpful advice you have received? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago by axolittl@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I'll go first: "You have to have children when you're young," told to me when I was in my late 20s, with no desire to ever have kids, and no means to support them, by someone divorced multiple times with at least one adult child who does not speak to them.

Also: Responding to "How do I deal with this problem?" questions with "Oh, don't worry about it, it's enough that you're even thinking about it!"

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[–] ablackcatstail@lemmy.goblackcat.com 20 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Your experience is the exception rather than the rule. It's been shown that rags to riches is a myth perpetrated by capitalism. At one time I had your level of success. It was all taken from me when I became disabled. As a Canadian, you have the distinct advantage of at least some social welfare assistance whereas your neighbor to the south has virtually none.

[–] ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 year ago

I agree that the whole rags to riches idea is a complete sham that doesn't exist ... unless you are already born wealthy ... and then that doesn't make any sense because you never had rags to begin with.

My story is more rags or bare clothing ... I'm not wealthy ... I just have enough to be comfortable ... I'm not in debt and I drive old beater cars and trucks and never owned a new vehicle in my life ... I bought small properties away from big city centers where land is cheap but living is hard

And yes ... I know most people are probably not capable of doing what I did ... I grew up with lots of people in my situation and I was fortunate enough to figure a way out, mostly through the luck of finding the right partner who worked just as hard as me, parents who were great guides and teachers and a small network of family and friends I could count on.