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What's the best question to ask someone who you don't know very well? (lemmy.world)

submitted 11 months ago by Therealmglitch@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] superfly_samurai@lemmy.one 32 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I had a friend in college that would just say, "So, what's your deal?"

I'm shocked at how well it worked. Open ended, so you only get what they're willing to talk about, but they'll still be ok talking.

[–] jol@discuss.tchncs.de 17 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Sounds agressive. Doubt it would work in all circles.

[–] superfly_samurai@lemmy.one 10 points 11 months ago

Delivery had a lot to do with softening the approach.

Definitely not for all situations, but to be fair, no approach could be.

[–] jcg@halubilo.social 7 points 11 months ago (2 children)

"What's YOUR deal?" sounds pretty aggressive, "what's your DEAL?" sounds borderline inflammatory, but I think there's a very neutral delivery without particular stress that sounds more like an open ended question than an aggression. Still, probably not great around fully sober folks.

[–] jol@discuss.tchncs.de 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

It might work in a college environment but if as an adult someone would ask me that I would not take it kindly.

[–] MrAlternateTape@lemm.ee 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

So, what is your deal? What have you been up too?

[–] jol@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 11 months ago

What did you say about my mother?!

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 1 points 11 months ago

very neutral delivery without particular stress that sounds more like an open ended question

So. WHAT's your deal?