this post was submitted on 02 Dec 2023
352 points (90.0% liked)
[Outdated, please look at pinned post] Casual Conversation
6591 readers
1 users here now
Share a story, ask a question, or start a conversation about (almost) anything you desire. Maybe you'll make some friends in the process.
RULES
- Be respectful: no harassment, hate speech, bigotry, and/or trolling
- Encourage conversation in your post
- Avoid controversial topics such as politics or societal debates
- Keep it clean and SFW: No illegal content or anything gross and inappropriate
- No solicitation such as ads, promotional content, spam, surveys etc.
- Respect privacy: Don’t ask for or share any personal information
Related discussion-focused communities
- !actual_discussion@lemmy.ca
- !askmenover30@lemm.ee
- !dads@feddit.uk
- !letstalkaboutgames@feddit.uk
- !movies@lemm.ee
founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
This reads like incel copypasta.
One key to understanding the relationship success of coal-rolling MAGA idiots is that women are not automatically more intelligent, aware, mature or sensitive themselves. Some may find they’re unhappy with a partner like that but it’s just as likely they prefer it because they are the same way themselves.
Have you considered that you might suffer a bit of confirmation bias? Honest question, not trying to put you down. I just don't see lots of those guys in relationships myself, and women in my area are pretty aware of their toxicity.
You know what I see?
I'm married. 20 years. I do my best to be good to her and vice versa. All but one of our married friends are decent men and women that treat each other well. The one exception is a guy who was always a total dick and sloughed off his responsibilities as a dad and husband. Pretty sure he has some kind of anti social personality disorder. The divorce was and bitter. Fuck that asshole. They married really young.
Anyway. The point is, my anecdotal experience is very different from yours. Good healthy relationships aren't possible with manosphere dickheads.
Yeah they might attract some women, the ones that have some big issues to work on. Nobody who has healthy self esteem is going to put up with that shit.
So what does that tell you about how well girls are treated growing up? There are way too many traumatized girls growing into traumatized women. I've read and heard so many stories of women having to sort themselves out so they can stop dating these shit bags.
The assholes may prey on vulnerable women but in the end those guys are going to be on their Nth failed marriage and bitter and never point the finger at themselves.
Meanwhile the relatively decent guys usually find someone and manage to build an actual life together with that person based on mutual respect and partnership. I've seen it over and over and over again.
Also every man likely has things to learn about regarding sexism. I did and I will always be learning more. I wished I had known in my teens what I know now. We are all steeped in this sexist, racist, competitive, exploitative culture and even if we don't want it to, some of that poison infects lur own thinking. It's inescapable. But it's also something we can recognize and fight too.
Also, no, half the country isn't assholes. Just less than half that actually vote. So maybe 1/3.
I'm in suburbs in Colorado.
Yeah but those women tend to be just as terrible
It is over the top but unfortunately i have seen it with my old friends and certainly coworkers. Especially the really lonely desperate women all flock to the louder, flamboyent type men. I think it is simply that they want someone who gives them attention, loudly. This way they feel loved and everyone knows that they are loved, unfortunately everyone else can see these men for what they are.