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I really hate livng in a world run by neurotypicals (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago by aloeha@lemmy.world to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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We are normally good at masking bc its expected of us but I am so tired of it. I'm so tired of having to pretend like I'm someone I'm not.

Then when we mess up and let our guard down or make a mistake and accidentally show people we are ND, we get dogpiled or yelled at. It sucks especially bc we sometimes don't understand social mores, so even when we are confident that we are acting the way NTs expect us to, we can end up wrong and still get yelled at.

It's awful bc we are never gonna create a more equitable society if we can't have these types of conversations with NTs. We have to show them that bring ND isn't an insult, but that's when we get yelled at or made fun of.

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[–] bloodtide@lemmy.world 23 points 1 year ago (10 children)

I can’t think of any well balanced person who would yell at someone who is neurodivergent for simply behaving in a way that is neurodivergent. Can you give an example of something like this happening? It could be very possible that you’ve just surrounded yourself with the wrong people, or you’ve inadvertently caused someone harm (really the only excusable reason to yell at someone).

[–] aloeha@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (8 children)

I basically listed a bunch of reasons I think Taylor Swift could be neurodivergent on the Swiftie discord server and got completely dogpiled, even tho I did it as tactfully as possible. It happens all the time tho like when I forget something or am not on the same wavelength as my NT wife and she gets frustrated with me for not understanding something.

[–] bloodtide@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Sorry if my response was unhelpful. My honest suggestion is to keep trying and eventually, hopefully, you’ll be able to find a group of people who appreciate who you are.

[–] aloeha@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Thanks. I didn't take it that way. I found the /r/ADHD discord and the people are much more accepting and said I didn't do anything wrong and its the Swifties fault for taking it the wrong way.

It guess I can't say anything that could possibly taken as an insult to Taylor Swift. Which somehow makes it suck even more bc I thought I found a place where I fit in (as a Swiftie myself) but I guess I was wrong.

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