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[–] technologicalcaveman@kbin.social 130 points 11 months ago (6 children)

I am 24, autistic, straight edge, and a data analyst. I'm the youngest person in my company, the closest person to me in age is 45. I haven't used a regular social media site since I was 14. My only interaction with modern discourse is my girlfriend's 18 year old sister. When she talks she might as well be speaking another language. My hobbies are unix, classic literature, VHS collecting, and synthesizers. My girlfriend calls me her 80 year old boyfriend.

[–] Hiro8811@lemmy.world 85 points 11 months ago (7 children)
[–] EatYouWell@lemmy.world 32 points 11 months ago (4 children)

The anonymous factor differentiates things.

[–] Hiro8811@lemmy.world 30 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Can't any social media be anonymous?

[–] lud@lemm.ee 25 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Sure but it's not intended to be.

Also a big part of it is imo that you never interact with the same people on sites like reddit or Lemmy, you don't follow anyone or anything.

[–] 257m@sh.itjust.works 3 points 11 months ago

I often see the same people over and over again on lemmy since its a small community. I even saw the same nicks on reddit often (like shittymorph). But yes it isn't intended to be ego centric like other sites.

[–] Kecessa@sh.itjust.works 9 points 11 months ago (1 children)

So Twitter isn't a social media?

[–] ours@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

The "social" aspect is up to debate.

[–] Klear@lemmy.world 9 points 11 months ago

Good old asocial network.

[–] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 3 points 11 months ago

Usernames though. Anonymous would be something like 4chan

[–] TheDarksteel94@sopuli.xyz 15 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I guess they mean Facebook, Xitter, etc. You know, the big ones.

[–] doctordevice@lemm.ee 15 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I think anonymous social media, while still social media, occupies a very different category from non-anonymous (identified?) social media. And the default interpretation of "social media" is the latter.

[–] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

That'd make Twitter not social media for people not using their actual names.

[–] westyvw@lemm.ee 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Alot of people do use their names on Twitter, and they really encourage you to follow, buy, and sell.

I don't recall people calling forums social media, and Lemme (and Reddit) are more like forums, with you following the subject. Not each other. Very much like BBS back in the day except with links.

[–] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

The tougher requirement of people using their name would leave very few social medias. Basically just LinkedIn and Facebook, with Twitter and others that have usernames but also named people being in the grey area.

[–] westyvw@lemm.ee 1 points 11 months ago

Even though there are anonymous people on twitter, it still asks you to follow, and the posts are generally self promotion, not discussion of topics. That is the big difference.

Lemmy is media, without the social part. Unless you really want to. I have not even looked at the users names I respond to, because that does not matter. On twitter, it actually does, real name or not.

[–] Hiro8811@lemmy.world -4 points 11 months ago

Any media can be anonymous.

[–] Voyajer@lemmy.world 13 points 11 months ago (2 children)
[–] zik@lemmy.world 11 points 11 months ago

It's also "social news", which is a kind of social media.

[–] Kecessa@sh.itjust.works 10 points 11 months ago

Only if you don't participate in the comments sections or even just look at them.

[–] thrawn@lemmy.world 12 points 11 months ago

More or less, but they specified “regular social media” which Lemmy is not

[–] YoorWeb@lemmy.world 8 points 11 months ago
[–] technologicalcaveman@kbin.social 7 points 11 months ago

I'm on kbin. But I'd consider this and other reddit inspired websites to be closer to a forum than a social media. Sure, you can use it like a regular social media site, but it's more tilted towards a forum method.

[–] bane_killgrind@lemmy.ml 5 points 11 months ago

Not a regular one

[–] arin@lemmy.world 6 points 11 months ago

If you're 80 i hope your gf isn't in her 20s

[–] blazeknave@lemmy.world 6 points 11 months ago

You're who I pictured. Thanks for the validation.

[–] YoorWeb@lemmy.world 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Got any of your music out there we could listen to?

[–] technologicalcaveman@kbin.social 6 points 11 months ago

My current project is called Obfuscation. It's atmospheric synth music inspired by aliens.

https://obfuscation.bandcamp.com/

My previous project was Das Kommando. It was a harsh black noise project about violent suicide.

https://daskommando.bandcamp.com/

[–] maryjayjay@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (3 children)

Am I out of the loop? I didn't think being a straight edge was something to be proud of. I feel like it includes a good amount of intolerance and judgement. It's this not the case?

Edit: man, I was expressing my impression from what I've read on the Internet and asking for more information. I wasn't expecting to get down voted for trying to understand better

[–] mycatiskai@lemmy.one 14 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I don't know if people are proud of it. Most people that I have known that are straight edge just don't want to do drugs or alcohol. I haven't known them to be judgemental of others who do, to each their own.

[–] cmbabul@lemmy.world 7 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

According to a punk guy I used to work with the straight edge movement originally had a nonjudgmental camp and an extremely judgemental camp. Can’t too much speak to that claim myself as I’ve never been on the punk scene but he was in general a trustworthy dude which leads me to believe there’s at least something to it even if it’s not quite right. But again I’m not in the punk scene so maybe I’m regurgitating bullshit

[–] maryjayjay@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Maybe the non judgemental ones doesn't post on social media and the judgies are the ones that originally gave me the impression and down voted me :shrug:

The vocal minority can really skew perception

[–] cmbabul@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

The og judgementals could just be old too, I’m in my late 30s and these guys are a decade older than me

[–] Knusper@feddit.de 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I just don't care to put substances in my body that are effectively toxic. If you think, being high at all times is the best way to live life, then more power to you.

Really, it's annoying that people think we're judgemental. I'm guessing, lots of folks judge themselves for it, but as long as everyone else does the drugs, they aren't confronted with that.
As soon as I dare to exist, not putting toxic substances into my body, they'll feel judged, because I'm adhering to their moral standard of not doing drugs, effectively reminding them that it would be doable.

If I come up with some bullshit reasoning, like I'm the designated driver, rather than the truth that I just don't want it, they'll feel more at ease. Although, I guess, that would also be the case, if they truly thought I was actively judging them.

[–] maryjayjay@lemmy.world 4 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

I have friends that don't drink and don't do drugs. Neither of my adult children do (18 and 20). I think it's great. I don't fathom why question was down voted. I think it's awesome that you you don't succumb to the pressures of society an live your life in a way that makes you happy. Keep kicking ass ❤️

[–] Knusper@feddit.de 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Your question might have been downvoted, because people (including me) read it the wrong way.

I thought, you were saying people shouldn't be proud of being straight edge.

And your reasoning:

I feel like it includes a good amount of intolerance and judgement.

..., I thought, was supposed to say that you think people, who are straight edge, are themselves very intolerant and judgemental.

Words can just be ambiguous, I guess.

[–] maryjayjay@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

Thank you for pointing that out. I appreciate the additional point of view

[–] technologicalcaveman@kbin.social 1 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Yeah, I'm proud that I have self control and have maintained a lifestyle that many people fail at. I'm proud to be associated with a community of people that live the same way. It's better than being proud of how much booze you can down or how high you can get.

[–] maryjayjay@lemmy.world 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I guess it was people like you that gave me the impression I got from reading posts on the Internet

[–] WillFord27@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago

Yeah, this seems so oddly judgmental and weird lol. Like I don't go on roller-coasters, so fuck everyone that does I'm better than them because I'm a roller-coaster virgin