You effectively can't just talk to women on dating sites. Thanks to how matching works, you have to successfully sell yourself with pictures to get your profile read, and successfully sell yourself with words in the profile before you can actually talk with anyone.

Back before matching was a thing, it wasn't much better. You could talk but you'd usually be ignored because the woman's inbox would be filled with too much crap for her to go through it all.

[–] BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world -2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

To be honest I've never used a dating site, I'm too old.

[–] lolcatnip@reddthat.com 1 points 11 months ago

Lucky you.

[–] baronvonj@lemmy.world 7 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Just put a picture of yourself smiling nicely on your dating app

About that ... https://healthland.time.com/2011/05/27/advice-for-online-daters-if-youre-a-guy-dont-smile/

[–] BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world -1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I can say that would turn me off.

[–] baronvonj@lemmy.world 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Yeah, it's a broad generalization, and the article is 12 years old so trends may have changed since then.

[–] BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world 0 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Maybe because I'm almost 50 and tired, but I just want someone who is nice to me.

[–] MasterBlaster@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

I gave up after my second divorce, I hope you have better luck. Beware, most seem to be looking for free everything with no work for them.