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this post was submitted on 21 Dec 2023
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When I was in the military I had friend ask to get married for the benefits. Healthcare is free(ish) in the US military (cause we're far behind on the rest of the world). And she had a heart condition. Lovely as she was, she was also one of my best friend's ex. So.... Ultimately I said no, as there's the wrong reason to get married, and then there's THE WRONG REASON TO GET MARRIED, and this was the latter.
She moved on and married someone who had medical able to help her, and she's been with him since, with kids and a happy life, so I feel no negative emotions from it. But I wanted to help my friend out, so initially I felt very, very conflicted.