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People who can don't get mad and just go with the flow, how do you do it? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 11 months ago by hactar42@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Here recently it seems like everything just gets under my skin so quickly and easily. It's not that I get mad and take it out on others, it's just the fact that I'm constantly annoyed and stressed. Something as simple as the dogs tracking some mud through the house will just ruin my mood. I know some people who would just laugh it off and clean it up. Meanwhile I'll get pissed that I didn't wipe their feet and be mad the entire time I'm cleaning it up. This has nothing to do with the dogs, it just an example. Any number of seemingly insignificant things can trigger me like that. Like forgetting something at the store and having to go back. I would love to be able to go, "well that sucks" and just get over it.

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[–] asg101@hexbear.net 12 points 11 months ago (3 children)

I look at those things that annoy me, and think would you rather be in Palestine right now and it becomes less of an issue. This general strategy has worked for me since the Vietnam War era.

[–] Evilsandwichman@hexbear.net 8 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

grumble grumble Damn America always making this view applicable

[–] axont@hexbear.net 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

This wouldn't work for me at all because thinking about Israeli/American treatment of Palestine infuriates me. Then thinking about Palestine makes me think of Yemen, which makes me think of the Iraq War, and then I'm just in a spiral of hatred and gritting my teeth. I'd be walking around with balled up fists and my neighbor pleasantly says hello, I'd whip around with "Fuck your hello, krakkker colonizer first worlder"

and being in that mindset permanently would be a good way to get myself shot.

[–] asg101@hexbear.net 2 points 11 months ago

yeah, your mileage will vary. Daily acts of defiance and sabotage of the machine can help keep the rage from hitting a flash point.

[–] bartolomeo@suppo.fi 1 points 11 months ago

I use this too. It really puts my priorities in order and reminds me how truly fortunate I am.