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In moments where you feel something's "wrong" with you, but logically there isn't, what are some helpful things you tell yourself? (hexbear.net)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by HexaSnoot@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net

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I want to be more mindful about the light I cast myself in. I leave myself little room to grow and it'd be beneficial to adventure my way to better self perception.

I have self esteem issues that have me avoid testing how I'll react to different scenarios. Whatever "wrong" means, I often assume I'll react "wrongly." I constantly shut down chances for myself to experience more things in life. Like when people give ideas for things I can do, I almost always reject them because I assume I'm incapable of doing those ideas.

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[–] FumpyAer@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I find the information on this page helpful, especially the list of 14 attacks/affirmations at the bottom of the page.

[–] FumpyAer@hexbear.net 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

And if you like that, he has an entire book. Pdfs are available online or for purchase. I'll post a link if you like.

[–] GinAndJuche@hexbear.net 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I would appreciate a link. That article made me question some stuff would like to read more.

[–] FumpyAer@hexbear.net 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Epub version (adjusts to your screen size, you will need an ebook reader app though).

PDF version full size pages, does not adjust to your screen.

The "slow" mirrors are still fast because it's a small file.

Or you can buy it on the platform of your choice. I have the physical book because it is nice to have. "CPTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" by Pete Walker.

[–] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Is what I mentioned common symptoms of CPTSD? Because I do have it.

[–] FumpyAer@hexbear.net 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

According to the book, yes. I'm no expert, but I self diagnosed using this book. And the coping strategies and frameworks inside have been useful for me to understand myself.

Another author that helped was Alice Miller. I'm not a fan of "the body keeps the score" but "the drama of the gifted child" was helpful for me.

Btw, on what she means by gifted, Alice Miller writes,

"When I used the word 'gifted' in the title, I had in mind neither children who receive high grades in school nor children talented in a special way. I simply meant all of us who have survived an abusive childhood thanks to an ability to adapt even to unspeakable cruelty by becoming numb.... Without this 'gift' offered us by nature, we would not have survived." But merely surviving is not enough. The Drama of the Gifted Child helps us to reclaim our life by discovering our own crucial needs and our own truth.