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[โ€“] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 38 points 1 year ago (19 children)

Transphobia free content is what I miss most. Ever since the reddit influx, there's been a huge rise in transphobia

[โ€“] mrmanager 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (17 children)

It's not so strange is it? It's not like most people feel comfortable around trans people. It took a very long time before even black people were treated normally.

I don't actually like the term phobia either. People are not "irrationally afraid" . They just prefer hanging out with people they are used to.

[โ€“] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 24 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[โ€“] mrmanager 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

No idea what you even mean with that. Did you expect a response with "oh that's strange, I'm sure everyone is really comfortable around trans people these days".

They just aren't.

I think instead of being hostile against people who admit they are not comfortable, maybe try to help and be a friend instead so people can start to understand that there is nothing to fear?

Trans people started one of the first mastadon instances and one of the first Lemmy instances as well. I think that's really cool, and I don't get why you would drop a oneliner with some kind of witty response when you can actually communicate with people here.

[โ€“] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 year ago

Hah, I love it.

It's natural that you're hostile to me, because you're uncomfortable, but me, I need to suck it up and be friends with you, despite you making me uncomfortable, because as the person you're "uncomfortable" with, the responsibility is all mine. You just sit there awaiting passive education, and feel guilt free dishing out your "discomfort" until then.

When I said I miss the transphobia free days of lemmy, that's what I was talking about. Because this conversation we're having right now wasn't a thing even a few months ago.

Trans people started one of the first [...] Lemmy instances as well.

Yes, I'm one of those trans people...

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