But seriously, no offense meant at all. As someone who grew up "in the time period" in southern California the term "dude" is inescapable, regardless of gender. Trying to remove that from my vocabulary would be akin to removing "whoa" or "wow"... (I have zero issues with pronoun preferences)

If the image reference is missed, please give The Big Lebowski a view. It's not necessarily for everyone but it's such a gem.

[–] chaosppe@lemmy.world 4 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Ah it was so unbelievably difficult to try to remove from my language too. I was playing a game with a mtf, I asked tbh and she said she didn't mind. However I tried to stop doing it anyway. I failed misurably tbh. That being said I had no problem saying she so... I think it's the case of being in a strategic scenario and not knowing who I'm talking to.

[–] can@sh.itjust.works 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Shoutout !achievers@lebowski.social

[–] stratosfear@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 9 months ago

Nice. Joined

[–] HipHoboHarold@lemmy.world 3 points 9 months ago

Florida for me, but same. The women refer to other women as dude.

[–] june@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago

In my experience it really matters how it’s used. If you call someone a dude (that dude over there) it’s generally seen as gendered. If you use it like ‘dude that’s so rad’, it’s not gendered and is more of a soft expletive.

However, it still causes dysphoria for some folks, so when I’m unsure I’ll ask and then respect their preference.