I hate this. And I hate the constant message from everything and everyone that we need to be constantly growing, learning, improving. It just makes you feel like you're never good enough, and when you get to good enough, there'll be a new level of good enough you haven't reached yet.

Can't I just enjoy who I currently am??!

[–] IMALlama@lemmy.world 3 points 9 months ago

I'm constantly surprised that a swath of the populous thinks that everyone else thinks the same things they do, has the same motives they do, etc. People are largely aware that there are introverts and extroverts, along with different learning styles, but that's where most people seem to stop. It extends well beyond that. People are all over the spectrum on anxiety, curiosity, desire to learn new things, where they prefer to position themselves in group settings, ability to understand where others are coming from, etc. Often when people with differences in the above meet, they fail to empathize with each other and are befuddled by that the other person doesn't think and act the way they do. We to sort ourselves into similar social groups, but it's especially amusing to watch this play out in a work environment.

[–] Zink@programming.dev 1 points 9 months ago

Exactly. And part of that is that just because you have the skills/knowledge/intelligence to achieve something doesn’t mean you have to in order to be a good person or a success or whatever.

But some people find satisfaction and fulfillment that way, so going for it isn’t bad either. We all have different ideal states of being.