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[โ€“] foodeater@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I used it once, got a decent date out of it. Despite its gimmick it doesn't feel very different from similar apps to me. I've grown to really dislike this style of dating app, it makes me feel almost ghoulish making a snap judgment on a human being based on a picture and short description. I know that's a tad dramatic and I don't want to discount the format if it works for you, but swipe-based apps always leave me with a bad feeling until I've had enough and delete them.

I used to use OKCupid 10+ years ago and I liked it more, the emphasis on filling out a good profile and answering compatibility questions appealed to me. Not sure if OKCupid is still like that now or not.

Also, maybe this is more of a personal issue but I've had this happen both times I've gotten a date from Bumble and Tinder - there's a lot of reading between the lines and mixed messages that I am not good at. Both times I met up with someone there was an expectation of a sexual encounter on their end that I was in no way prepared for. But I think that stems for my need to be direct and I might be incompatible with that kind of dating scene, haha.

With my big need to use FOSS for everything i possibly can, no