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How the fuck do you make friends? (lemmygrad.ml)

submitted 8 months ago by yewler@lemmygrad.ml to c/comradeship@lemmygrad.ml

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It was so easy to make friends during my undergrad because I lived in the dorms. But I lost half of them due to a messy situation with my ex girlfriend, and the other half doesn't live in town anymore.

Now I'm 22, working on my Master's, and I feel like I have no one.

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[–] FactuallyUnscrupulou@hexbear.net 3 points 8 months ago

I play disc golf and my city has a weekly random doubles league which is more focused on making friends than competition. I joined a community organization to push our local officials to fix stuff. I also try to take art classes when possible. I've done all that stuff for a year now and still only really have acquaintances or distant friends, it will take time to figure out which ones I truly feel comfortable with and can confide in. For reference most people I see at these things are 30+, those folks are slower to warm up to each other since they usually have adult commitments. I did a lot of these same activities in my 20s too and you're right it was easier to become close with people in a shorter timeframe than it is now.