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"Men are bad at picking up on women's hints." What are your actual thoughts on this sentiment? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by FatTony@lemmy.world to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world

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Either through memes or comments I keep seeing this sentiment pop-up from time to time. And I'm wondering what your (yes, you) consensus is on it.

I for one am too pessimistic to do anything with potential hints. Like even if there is a good chance I still just don't want to risk it.

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[-] eran_morad@lemmy.world 29 points 3 months ago

Be a fucking adult and express your desires and intents clearly.

[-] SkippingRelax@lemmy.world 9 points 3 months ago

"How about we finish this drink and we go to my place to fuck?"

Works 100% of the times, everyone should try it and stop it with the immature waste of time that is flirting /s

[-] Illuminostro@lemmy.world 6 points 3 months ago

Or you could just say "Want to come back to my place?" Like a civilized adult.

[-] Patches@sh.itjust.works 0 points 3 months ago

Oh no, Thanks, I can't drink coffee late at night, It keeps me up.

[-] SkippingRelax@lemmy.world -1 points 3 months ago

Does that express your intent and desires clearly though?

[-] Illuminostro@lemmy.world 4 points 3 months ago

Yes, it does.

[-] SkippingRelax@lemmy.world -2 points 3 months ago

So if she accepts, it means she understands and is 100% dtf to you? Boy I have bad news..

[-] Illuminostro@lemmy.world 0 points 3 months ago

Did I say that "DTF?" If she wasn't interested in you, she wouldn't go. When she's there, you feel the situation out, see where it goes.

You'll understand these things when you're an adult.

[-] SkippingRelax@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

Please dont be that edgy it hurts, I have taken home a girl or two back in my going out days. The last one that I've bought a house and made kids with. While I had fun I'm glad I don't need to deal with that anymore, particularly in this decade as it was abit more relaxed when I did it.

What you seem to be missing in your simplicity is that the whole post is about young males scared about making a move, mentioning plausible deniability, wishing women were more clear, and needing more than a hint to take a risk these days. The person I replied to made an asinine comment dismissing all these concerns, and you ran with it thinking it was smart, and triple down.