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[–] dingus@lemmy.world 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Please understand...I don't normally mind if someome doesn't wish me happy birthday. Hell, I usually don't like too much attention. It's that we specifically talked about it and it was specifically noted to be a big deal to me because I was having a hard time with turning 30. We specifically talked about it being a big deal to me. It's not like a regular birthday to me.

They specifically said they would text me to keep up with things after they moved away but they didn't, even though I periodically would text. They specifically and repeatedly told me about being in town for a specific set of dates and then didn't actully find time to hang out when they were here.

Here's the thing...they didn't need to repeatedly tell me when they were coming in to town if they didn't want to do anything or if they knew they would be too busy.

They didn't need to tell me they would try to keep in touch if they didn't want to or knew they wouldn't do it.

It's going back on your word is what hurts.

I get that people have busy lives. That's fine.

But to get my hopes up about things and then never end up keeping your word with anything really hurts. And it really does make it feel like they never liked me.

If the answer you say is to find even more people like that... I have a hard enough time making friends as it is. What is even the point of existing at that point if I can't do what I'm supposed to do? And when I do rarely find someone they just leave anyway?