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The bear vs man trend is digging up some tiresome and stressful thoughts (lemmy.world)

submitted 6 months ago by Voran@lemmy.world to c/vent@lemmy.world

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Firstly: I'm reasonably sure these women are just kvetching. I often say 'I'd rather drink piss' to express that I don't like something. Obviously I'm not actually going to drink piss.

Secondly...I do agree it's a bit much to compare men to a deadly 1200 pound predator. I would be a bit fed up of hearing that too if I were a guy.

Thirdly...that said...I understand WHY women say that even if it's a bit ridiculous. I've had a male friend completely turn on a dime and send me rape threats while drunk. I pleaded and tried to reason with him for about 20 minutes before I completely snapped and threatened to do things to him with a hunting knife that I won't detail because there's no need to make people vomit. Only then did he back off and switch to making excuses and blaming his autism. It was terrifying because there was no reasoning with him. He LIKED that I was frightened and freaked out. It gave him a pleasurable power rush. The only reason he backed off was the threat of said hunting knife.

A bear isn't malicious. A bear just wants to eat. A bear can be redirected or avoided. You can do things such as wear a bell or carry mace or put up an electric fence around a tent. A man isn't necessarily malicious but IF he is...those precautions won't do jack poopsies because he consciously knows the woman doesn't want it and LIKES the act of stomping on boundaries.

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[–] inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago

Big time agree. A group that's not talked about enough is the Men's liberation movement from the 60s/70s, who were the ones to popularize the term "toxic masculinity", referring to the unhealthy standards men grow up learning to emulate for fear of rejection or being mad fun of.

The majority of women are not telling men to repress, be aggreisve or not to report abuse. It's other men who mock victims for being "a wuss". It's frustrating how a lot of men can recognize the stigma against any perceived vulnerability but not make the connection that it's their father's, brothers, friends and malr social figures (like Andrew tate) that are the ones enforcing that BS.

All people suffer under the patriarchy, women from forced submission and men from regression and unhealthy unobtainable standards. For your own sake dudes, at least direct your frustration at the true source.