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I'm a trans man. I didn't realize how broken men are
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I have no issue opening up to other men, so long as they're receptive, but very often (almost universally) I've ended up regretting it when I have done so.
I'm sorry it hasn't been positive for you. Would you be open to sharing some of your experiences?
Sure, it's not anything too tragic or traumatic. Openness has often been met with derision or mockery. Even if the other person is supportive during the initial openness, whatever is confessed is often brought up later for more negativity. In some cases, if my feelings were about a separate individual and I was seeking advice about them, the person to whom I was talking has taken what was said to the other individual in question.
Generally speaking, it seems best to avoid.
Wow, that's awful. While not tragic, that does sound like little-t traumatic. What a way to discourage opening up. I'm sorry you had to go through with that. I hope you eventually find some better friends that can more respectfully hold your emotions.