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Nah, i'm right there with you. In the long term relationships I've been in I've never been in a reall fight, certainly not a screaming match. I never wanted to hurt my partners or take anything from them, and I never stuck with anyone who wanted to hurt me or take anything from me.
I spend a lot of time around middle-aged-and-up married couples in their homes due to my line of work and the dynamics often seem pretty bleak. Maybe decades make the difference.
There's a pretty big difference between having an argument with someone because of a difference in opinion or interests, and having hatred for that person. I guess there's a lot of overlap as people mature and grow old with their close partners it's inevitable that negative emotions set in alongside love. But it's definitely different to just arguing, and it's probably not healthy to hate your partner.
Yeah I think so. Personally I've never even felt hatred for anyone in my personal life, it's a whole different thing as opposed to just having differences with people IMO.
You can argue and disagree without fighting, without trying to hurt the other person or to "win". But to do that, you've got to trust them a whole lot, and they've got to trust you just as much.