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How do you stop feeling the desire to be in a relationship? (lemm.ee)

submitted 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by Kimdracula@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I'm almost 35 and realised is not going to happen. I will never become adult or reliable enough for any woman to take a glance at me. I'll never fall in love or experience sex.

There must be a way to stop this feeling. People say hobbies but honestly I don't like anything or i give up on everything. I don't wanna try new things anymore.

Edit: some of you are really nice. But to those of you who keep insulting just because my post is a downer they I'll just block you. Why don't just ignore my post instead of leaving nasty comments?

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[–] user224@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Certainly better than nothing. Going to a therapist can be hard, both mentally and economically.

[–] bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 23 points 5 months ago (1 children)

It's not better than nothing for OP. He uses Lemmy to get attention instead of accepting the advice people give him. He will never improve as long as he is using this place as an incel stomping ground.

Just look at his responses in this thread from several days ago: https://lemm.ee/post/34057938

He has no desire to improve. Only to wallow in self pity and get as much attention as possible from well-meaning people on the fediverse.

[–] BCsven@lemmy.ca 14 points 5 months ago (1 children)

While your response is harsh, I think there is merit in it. A professional would work on the undelying issue, rather than daily placating of feelings.

[–] bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 10 points 5 months ago (2 children)

We can see from the past few weeks of activity that OP is not going to improve by continuing this behaviour. Just look at the conversation they had with @hellothere@sh.itjust.works in the thread I linked.

That was somebody who was genuinely trying to help and giving OP as much support and empathy as they could muster. And you can see OP just has no desire to improve his situation. He just wants attention.

[–] hellothere@sh.itjust.works 5 points 5 months ago

That's kind of you to say, thanks.

[–] BCsven@lemmy.ca 1 points 5 months ago

It seems a common trend on tiktok, etc. people crying on camera about how sad they are for internet points and attenrion, it is bizarre to me

[–] exanime 4 points 5 months ago

Lemmy advice for someone struggling who really needs therapy for a harsh problem can definitely be worse than nothing