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[โ€“] clark@midwest.social 0 points 3 months ago (4 children)

Everybody's already mentioned the important things, but to be the more superficial one: people with no sense of style. People who just throw on something randomly and don't give it a single thought. I get being comfortable, but you can be stylish and comfortable. You are not that when you wear knee-long jeans shorts and an unwashed tee, in my opinion.

[โ€“] richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one 11 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I'm your total opposite. Requiring style in others is a huge red flag. If you care about more about the clothes of a person than about the person, I don't want to know you.

[โ€“] clark@midwest.social 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Fair enough. Personally, I prefer personality over appearance. But I also think it's a visual turnoff to see no effort, also because the way a person dresses is usually the first thing most people notice. I do, anyway.

[โ€“] richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one 4 points 3 months ago

it's a visual turnoff to see no effort

Life is short and I choose my mind's content; I don't care about clothing except for modesty, minimal work convention or warmth.

[โ€“] dmalteseknight@programming.dev 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

But style is also part of a person's personality no? I say this as someone who slaps on clothes on themselves more often than not.

[โ€“] richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one 2 points 3 months ago

But style is also part of a person's personality no?

Yes, if you accept "no style" (not caring about clothes at all) as a kind of style.

Demanding a non-null style regarding appearance is unacceptable to me.

I do not understand the dislikes. Your response is quite polite.

[โ€“] shalafi@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

Right with ya. I just crawled in out the woods, from a storm. Got showered, put on nice clothes and cologne to greet my wife coming home from work. Know why? Because I want to look good for my partner. And she does the same for me.

[โ€“] MigratingtoLemmy@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

I'll wear decent jeans if it's something I care about/ can't wear shorts too. But colours that fit my skin just don't make sense to me. I can't understand it, it's not intuitive.

I suppose we're not going to be friends