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[-] MossyFeathers@pawb.social 40 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

The comic made me chuckle; but why has introversion become synonymous with being anti-social or asocial? My understanding is that it's entirely possible to be highly social and introverted, because being introverted just means you gain energy from being alone. It doesn't mean you hate social gatherings or don't like having friends; it just means you discharge when socializing and recharge during alone time (and the opposite is usually true for extroverted people).

I wanted to point that out as I seem to be a social introvert. I like socializing and love being invited to things (even if I'm not available or it's something I don't like doing, because it means someone remembered that I exist), but my battery wears out fairly quickly when doing so. Strangely, I used to be very extraverted, but at some point I swapped to being introverted.

Edit: I guess I will say that the thing the comic gets right is that usually I won't hold it against someone for cancelling. However, I don't get excited about it, and might even be disappointed if it was something I was looking forward to, but I usually am okay with it.

Edit 2: made a small edition in bold.

[-] nifty@lemmy.world 12 points 1 month ago

You’re right, but I think perhaps conflating anti-social and asocial? https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asociality

[-] MossyFeathers@pawb.social 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Maybe? I guess when I think of asocial vs anti-social, I think of someone who is apathetic towards social interaction vs someone who doesn't like socializing and only does it because it tends to be a mandatory part of society. As such, I'd think someone who's asocial would be indifferent to a host cancelling, while someone who's antisocial would be happy or excited by it.

Edit: I am aware that anti-social tends to have different connotations when used generally, but in a social setting I tend to think of antisocial being opposed to socializing.

[-] Maeve@kbin.social 2 points 1 month ago

Antisocial is a personality disorder, but idk if they still call it aspd.

[-] GluWu@lemm.ee 8 points 1 month ago

I'm super introverted but like socializing. It just takes a lot of energy. So only one party a week, and I'm probably going to leave early. The fewer the people the longer I can go though. Like camping a whole weekend with a few other people is fun. But alone time is a core need.

[-] asteriskeverything@lemmy.world 6 points 1 month ago

Okay so as a person who can be very social, talkative, and genuinely enjoys interactions with people.

I am first an introvert. And that means there is a very decent chance any social outings can suddenly sound like a dreadful experience regardless of the company because you just do not have it in you to be interesting to them or interested in them. You just wake up and are like.. nah, not happening. Sure you made a commitment and will push through but that is why we are delighted when the event itself is canceled and we don't have to force ourselves or make an excuse.