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I get mistaken for Hispanic and told I look Colombian. My American name is pretty common white guy name but people call me by the Spanish variant.

But that's not even the right continent and I have zero Hispanic heritage. All it tells me is that you look at skin color and not features, and you lump me into an "other" category. We don't all look like KPop idols.

This is complicated by the fact that my South American wife is light skinned with green eyes, and when she speaks fluent Spanish people assume she is an American girl who learned the language due to me, her "Hispanic" husband.

Not a bad thing, just annoying, and please stop yelling that I "have to go back" when I'm in the park with my kids.

I honestly can't think of anything. Is there things people have said that I don't like? Sure. But ones that made me feel awful? No, and if there was something like that it probably felt bad because deep down I knew they were right.

Offence is taken, not given. If you call me something I know not to be true I simply don't care.