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The original was posted on /r/bestofredditorupdates by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 on 2024-07-07 04:02:02+00:00.
I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/throwra8274648
Originally posted to r/relationship_advice
The girl (18F) I like kissed me (19M) when I dropped her off. What do I do?
Original Post: June 6, 2024
We met at work and became friends fast, now we spend a ton of time together. We started playing video games together so if we’re not working together we’re on the mic together.
I took her to get poke and boba after work. She touched my hand when she laughed and I almost died. When I dropped her off at her place she just leaned over and kissed me, thanked me, said she would be waiting for me on the game we play, then got out of the car.
Not going to lie, that was my first kiss, and I am a super virgin. My mind is reeling and I don’t know what to do. I kind of want to ask if she’s my girlfriend but that seems crazy. I don’t want to ask her and make her think I’m clueless (I am) and she laughs or never talks to me again. Also if the kiss was bad and she wants to pretend it never happened I don’t want to humiliate myself. I don’t even know if that was a date or not. Maybe I just move on and see what happens next? But I’d really like to try to make a move if she’s into me. I really don’t know.
Sorry, I wasn’t sure if I should add it to this post or make a new one so I just made a new one! Thank you everyone for helping me!
Update #1 (rareddit): June 9, 2024
Hi everyone! Thank you to everyone who responded, I really appreciated all the advice and reassurance. I was fully panicking and didn’t know what to do. I got a bit overwhelmed with comments and did not respond to all of them, but trust me when I say I read and appreciated every single one. I also want to add that I know my post wasn’t very popular but I was not sure how else to update, so I’m making a new one. I’m a bit jittery right now and I’m probably going to include too much detail, but I’m just very, very happy.
So, we went out on a date! The day after I made the post I dropped her off at home after work, I asked if she wanted to go to the mall with me this weekend. She laughed and said okay, then I actually kissed her this time which was awesome. I was very, very nervous the whole time.
The mall was fun, I chose it because it’s casual and there’s a lot of stuff we both like there. We got drinks and she asked for a sip of mine, and drank straight from my straw which did something to me. She hugged me a lot, she let me kiss her a bunch, we held hands, I put my hand on her back, I even played with her hair! It was really, really nice. All in all we just looked at cool stuff and hung out together which was all I wanted anyway. We went to dinner at a noodle place, she fed me something she wanted me to try. I don’t even remember what it tasted like because I was too busy panicking because she was feeding me. She also stole a dumpling off of my plate which was really, really cute. I didn’t even care that I lost a dumpling.
I went in her house for a while and she mostly just showed me her anime figures and PC set up, but it was still surreal the whole time. I told her she was pretty and smelled good and she laughed, and told me I was handsome and smelled good, which made me almost turn into soup. I think we technically made out on her bed for like 15 seconds. I told her she was my first kiss and she laughed and called me cute. I almost turned to dust. When I left she told me to message her when I get home so that she knows I’m safe, and again, I nearly died right then and there.
That was really it! I’m home now and my heart is still practically pounding! I almost asked her if she was my girlfriend again but I learned from the comments that that is a terrible idea, and I’m going to wait a few weeks and a few more really great dates to ask her to be my girlfriend. We’ve been messaging practically constantly since I got home. I’m sorry the update was boring and rambling and stupid, I’m just really, really happy.
Update #2: June 30, 2024
If those were removed, I found a copy of my original post and update here :)
Hi everyone! This is probably really dumb but I wanted to make one last update for my post. I really wanted to express gratitude and appreciation for everyone that responded and tried to help me. The internet isn’t always a nice place, but you guys were nicer to me than almost anyone in my life and I’m very, very thankful.
The last few weeks have been amazing. We’ve been going on dates and doing nothing, which I never knew could be so fun. I’m surprised that I never run out of things to talk about with her. We’ve been friends for well over a year, and I’d think it would have stopped by now, but it’s like we never shut up or stop laughing.
She has told me she was waiting for me to make a move for forever. She admitted she had been dropping hints for months, and I’m painfully oblivious. That’s why she finally just kissed me.
Something that I never understood was feeling so protective over a person. She works at the customer service desk and I’m pretty much a box boy, so sometimes while I’m in the back building box forts she’s getting yelled at, and it makes me really upset. I don’t like seeing people treat her poorly. With that being said she is tough. She says it’s her Latin blood but I think she’s just special.
An unforeseen benefit of this is my self esteem has improved tremendously. She’s very, very pretty in every aspect. I never would have imagined someone like her would be into me. She is helping me realize that I’m not still the tall, scrawny Asian kid in a Pokémon t-shirt with glasses and acne. Now I’m a tall, somewhat muscular Asian man in a Pokémon t-shirt with contacts and a skin care routine. That’s a joke, mostly. In reality I guess I didn’t realize I was likable in any way, shape, or form, and being liked by someone so absolutely amazing has been incredible.
Though it might too much information, I am no longer a super virgin. With that being said, sex is nice but I’m just happy I get to spend time with her. I didn’t realize how happy the little things like hand holding and kissing would make me. Just looking at her sometimes makes me melt.
Finally, I asked her to be my girlfriend. She said yes. :)