Stop Drinking

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This is a place to motivate each other to control or stop drinking. It is also a place for non drinkers to discuss and share.

We welcome anyone who wishes to join in by asking for advice, sharing our experiences and stories, or just encouraging someone who is trying to quit or cut down.

Please post only when sober; you’re welcome to read in the meanwhile.

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I can't remember the last time I spent a couple of anxiety filled days in bed because of doing something extremely stupid. (lemmy.ca)

submitted 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by remotelove@lemmy.ca to c/stopdrinking@lemmy.world

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I mean, I still do some stupid and brainless things but I can own that stuff without fear.

The absolute worst is only being able to half-remember most of the stupid shit I did. That stuff still kinda haunts me, but in some ways, that is a necessary evil of sobriety.

This was just a random thought that I needed to write. Maybe it gives someone else something to hope for. Maybe it reminds others of why we choose not to drink. Regardless: IWNDWYT

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[–] Hobbes_Dent@lemmy.world 21 points 4 months ago (5 children)

Thanks for posting.

I upvote every one of these I see but never know what to say.

8 years without a drink coming up soon. Keep on keeping on.

[–] blindbunny@lemmy.ml 9 points 4 months ago

Congrats eight years in an achievement!

[–] ohlaph@lemmy.world 7 points 4 months ago

That's amazing!

[–] Zerlyna@lemmy.world 6 points 4 months ago

That’s wonderful! Congratulations!!!

[–] remotelove@lemmy.ca 5 points 4 months ago

Congrats on 8! It's an accomplishment you should be proud of.

[–] Outtatime@sh.itjust.works 4 points 4 months ago

You're a bad ass

[–] Zerlyna@lemmy.world 10 points 4 months ago (1 children)

❤️ I feel you. Waking up and checking the phone to see who I drunk texted was the worst.

[–] remotelove@lemmy.ca 9 points 4 months ago

It took a while for the phone checking reflex to go away with me. On occasion, I'll still get startled awake, get that sinking feeling in my stomach and make a quick grab for my phone out of panic.

Even waking up now, not immediately recognizing where I am at or remembering when I fell asleep fills me with a moment of fear about "what happened last night??".

Time has fixed most of that, thankfully. I haven't felt the blood drain from my face in a while and I nearly forgot how that used to be part of my morning routine.

[–] JimmyBigSausage@lemm.ee 6 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Definitely helps to share with someone, whether in confidentiality or in a meeting, being heard and hearing others with similar experiences helps us to stay sober, move forward with our lives and sometimes even laugh about things. You are not alone!

[–] remotelove@lemmy.ca 6 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Very true. Over the last few weeks, many things have just gone wrong in my life. Some of those things happened by pure chance and some things because of bad choices. It's annoying for sure, but not horribly bad.

I think what I was actually saying in my original post, in a roundabout way, is that my life could have been significantly worse at this moment. Simply making a random post and reading a simple response enabled some deeper reflection that was likely past due.

Thanks for listening/reading. :)

[–] lamabop@lemmings.world 5 points 4 months ago

The voice inside that tells us it will be better with alcohol is just so full of fucking bullshit, hey.

Everything is better without drinking. I know it, experience tells me this without any doubt, if I look back at what I've done, all the worst shit, all the worst times, has been fuelled by alcohol.

I will not drink with you, today. Thanks for sharing your experiences.