I actually made my home in the one hosting a previous reddit community I was fond of, just choose one u like.
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Randomly came across mine. Was gunna join a larger instance just for testing, but it was right as the big Reddit rush was happening and my signups kept failing.
So I went with this one.
I just picked lemmy.one mostly at random, but also in part because it advertised itself as well regulated but also not heavily populated and thus prone to crashing with the recent influx of reddfugees.
Seems to work okay, but I can't create a community without admin approval and the instance also disallows downvoting, and I'm not a big fan of that at all, but I'll give it a while longer and see.
I'm still finding it a challenge to find the balance of communities that interest me I used to have. There's an awful lot of meta chatter about the site itself from new users that, while I understand, gets rather annoying when it takes up the whole feed. So it's definitely an adjustment, resulting in me using it less than I did my old haunts, but in the meantime I've gotten a lot more reading done than I used to, so I've got that going for me.
Didn't realize I couldn't downvote. Might be time to look elsewhere.
Me, I'm waiting for things to settle a bit and see what recommendations float to the surface for me. Not being able to downvote might turn out to actually be good for my own mental health. We'll see.
I went with lemmy.ca because I figured it'd put me in proximity to Canadian Political discourse.
lemmy.ml says they are overloaded, I then found beehaw but they requires signup application so I say fuck it and choose lemmy.world instead.
I chose lemmy.world after lemmy.ml closed their registration. Just glad I made my account somewhere.
SDF has been around since the 1980's. It is one of the most historically trustworthy institutions on the Internet.
I've been an SDF member since 2001.
So it just made sense to use my community's instance of Lemmy, since I also use their Pixelfed and Mastodon.
lemmy.world is more open and performant than lemmy.ml and Beehaw.
I chose programming.dev because i am a programmer and developer.
I tend to hang in indie game development subreddits and didn't want to have to deal with confrontational trolls on a regular basis, so programming.dev felt like a relatively safe choice since it's neither a super large server or a general-purpose one. I just wanna make lil' games and have little patience for those lacking in empathy and maturity.
Programming.dev represent! ππ½
lemmy.world seemed reputable with a straightforward domain name, and no out-of-the-ordinary policies.
Was looking for a furry one, and pawb.social seemed to be well-run (since it was related to a couple of decently-sized Mastodon servers) and was generic enough (and not NSFW focused). There also seemed to be a decent number of technical people there as well (in fact, one of the Mastodon instances is furry.engineer), so it matched up with my other interests as well. I considered lemmyrs.org, but ended up not choosing it.
same, went for the furry one.
I landed at vlemmy.net. I tried to register at a few bigger ones that gave infinite circles. By the time I got to vlemmy I wasn't really being too picky anymore, I was just trying to figure out if the problem was me or overloading.
A nice side effect of landing there is that some of my very few subscriptions are on beehaw, and we haven't been defederated.
I chose beehaw. I chose wrong. So now I'm on lemmy.world and nothing was lost π
Kbin because it was the first one that actually let me register and didn't freeze
Seriously, this. I tried for days to register on Lemmy. One day I was mid-registration and the button was just spinning, doing nothing, so I came over to kbin, registered and started using the site. Lemmy never stopped spinning. No thanks.
Nice username :)
You all need some longer usernames, sheesh.
I chose kbin, loved the integration with mastodon
I donβt see the appeal of mastodon but thatβs a neat feature.
I like microblogging platforms; they allow me to get information faster (albeit less information) than these types of posts.
This was linked on some post about alternatives to that other site I want to stop using. And honestly I'm quite confused on the "it doesn't matter/it does matter" so I'm just rolling with it and not trying to worry about it.
Joined sh.itjust.works since it's located in North America, has open registration, and the admin sounds like he knows what he's doing running a server. I've stayed 'cause it's been stable and I like the admin's vibe. It and lemmy.world seem to have become the main large "general purpose" instances since they both have open registration.
I also have an account on kbin that I'm not using much at the moment. I think that site has lots of future potential, though.
I chose lemmy.world solely on the fact it had a lot of members. Lemmy.ml was a contender too. I just wanted to jump in and check things out. Knowing (slightly)more now, I don't think it was a bad choice.
Lemmy.world: because it was the top result on Google and I neither knew about the other servers nor remembered my experiences with Mastodon.
Probably going to stay here anyway.
Mostly out of laziness
I joined Beehaw early on when things where a lot quieter because I liked what they were trying to do (and back then there were only like two instances, and I didn't want to put more load on lemmy.ml).
Joined sh.itjust.works to make a community after the sysadmin just casually walked up with a huge server, which is a level of swagger I can get behind. I've since moved to this as my "main" account since Beehaw defederated with lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works (which sucks, but is understandable).
May move again to pawb.social at some point, although that means people will know something about me. :P
Edit: And now pawb.social has defederated with sh.itjust.works... I'm getting more and more tempted to just roll my own personal instance just for me...
If you're Ok with NSFW there is also yiffit.net. As far as I know we aren't defederated with anyone yet.
Looks like it has defederated with some instances, but for very good reason
you can check here https://yiffit.net/instances
Oh neat, I didn't know that list existed, thanks! And yea I'm fine with the ones it has defederated from lol
I used Lemmy for a while but now I am planning to exclusively use kbin. It appears to be a way more mature project and is infinitely better UI/UX wise than Lemmy. Moreover it's a project maintained by a fellow Polander and not a bunch of tankies.
The last point you mentioned is one of my biggest concerns.
As it's open source I wouldn't look down on people using Lemmy, but if you are going to use it I'd recommend staying away from the main server/lemmy.ml.
I chose Kbin myself because it's way more like old reddit and I wasn't jazzed with the devs of Lemmy.
Not gonna lie. I've got multiple accounts across platforms. But yours seems to be responding quickly and the content is solid, so... here I am.
Yeah, I was a bit confused at the start and in my haste created a few different accounts across kbin, lemmy.world, and Mastodon. Worst case scenario I have backups and I'll just end up using the instance I prefer the most, the most.
Vlemmy.net as it currently hasn't defederated from anyone or been defederated.
I'm new here, do you know if lemm.ee has been defederated either way?
The instances page on each instance shows the instances that it is federating with, and there's a section at the bottom which shows if ilthqt instance is blocking any others.
E.g. https://lemm.ee/instances
I don't know of any way to see if that instance is being blocked by other instances, except to visit the instances page on every instance individually. Which isnt really practical.
I joined sh.itjust.works because I like the domain. It makes me smile π
I like the domain and it wasn't overloaded like most of the Lemmy.xx ones. I was torn between this and beehaw, glad i went with sh.itjust.works
Me too. I actually put in an application for an account on Beehaw on day 1 just because they seemed to be the most active (before I understood how any of this works.) Never got a reply - I think we both dodged a bullet π€£